Thursday, March 11, 2010

A parenting road map

Our children grow up way too fast. I remember when our daughter was first born: everyone would tell us “enjoy her, it goes by fast”. At the time it seemed like an obvious platitude. There were many endless nights when no one was getting any sleep and I wondered if my life would ever be the same again.

Now, as she’s nearing 9 years old, I realize more and more the importance of living in the present and avoiding the future painful “what ifs” and “if onlys”. I am learning that it’s easier to parent from a place of responding rather than reacting to your child, attempting to ensure and experience colored with courage, grace, humor and flexibility.

If you have lost touch with your dreams for your family, entangled in guilt and feelings of inadequacy, it’s not too late to recall the reason why you feel in love with that little person that is your child and claim that dream back.

If you need help getting a hold of that family dream again, ask yourself some very simple questions:

1.    When was the last time your kids made you laugh?
2.    What do you love to do with your kids now?
3.    What do other people tell you is nice about your kids?

I believe that entertaining the answers to these questions can help you find your way back to the joy of parenting, as it was meant to be.  I invite you to honor where you are in you parenting journey; be gentle with yourself.

Remember you are really OK just the way you are even as you learn to become the parent you were meant to be!

What dreams do YOU have for your family? I'd love to hear anything you want to share!


  1. I have learnt the hard way how short life can be, so each day to us is a precious gift x

  2. Thanks for sharing Sara! I can always use the reminder of the blessings in my life when I start to loose focus!